Bethany Saltman’s capacity for deep thinking and profound analysis has been extraordinarily helpful to me as she has undertaken research on my behalf. She uses her fine mind with galvanizing energy; she is meticulous, broad-ranging, and original, and I count myself lucky to work with her.
-- Andrew Solomon, best-selling author of Far From the Tree, Noonday Demon, and many others
The poet Emily Dickinson wrote, “The things that never can come back, are several,” and aren’t we fortunate? Once that jelly-stained doll is out..
Though at the time, it was annoying and even embarrassing, I can now appreciate my dad’s relentless pursuit of his own vision, asking the waitress at Big Boy to bring a bowl of lemons so he could fix up the hollandaise he ordered in copious amounts on the side of his Eggs Benedict.
Saltman: Your analogy between organized religion and rape is pretty inflammatory. Is that intentional?
Harris: I can be even more inflammatory than that. If I could wave a magic wand and get rid of either rape or religion, I would not hesitate to get rid of religion.
I would wake up from these dreams a bit flustered, but also knowing—a deep, crazy knowing—that this was not about Daido; this was a dream of God loving me.
It’s like I have, my whole life, been trying to touch someone, to feel something good and true, and everlasting, in them, in me, in something very cool we could make together.
Bethany Saltman: You write, “Happiness is not a concept I tend to dwell on. Chinese parenting does not address happiness.” Don’t you think that the..
So what is it about the way loveliness abounds these days that just feels so….icky? I mean, why shouldn’t pixied girls from San Francisco sell their homemade aprons on Etsy? What’s the matter with artisanal pickles? There’s nothing inherently bad about handsome young bucks wearing …
Bethany Saltman: What is your sense of the parenting scene these days? What are some of the issues that parents are really worried about? And how do you understand the way that parents are being talked to by all the millions of experts?
That night as I lay in bed, hands on my hard, round belly, my mind filled with the faces of all the believers I had met and seen, I tried, really tried, to pray. I tried to feel what it would be like to believe in someone watching over me, some big Father.